Guest Post: How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder? A Straightforward Approach.

Guest Post: How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder? A Straightforward Approach.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder is an unbalance of emotions or feelings, characterized by black-and-white thinking, that makes you feel like even you don’t know yourself. These unstable emotions result in being often angry and showing impulsive behavior. The feeling of being out of control comes with massive stress. Often this situation is related to anxiety, depression, and substance abuse.

Are you dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder?

If you recognize yourself in the description I gave, then there is a big chance that you are dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD. Don’t be alarmed; there is also good news. There are ways several effective ways of dealing with this disorder, half of the people that got aware of their condition, and that decided to do something about it experienced long-lasting results.

Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder

First of all, learn to be gentle with yourself, accept and embrace who you are. Don’t get mad if things are not going the way you want, or you have trouble understanding and dealing with your emotions. This bad attitude will only be translated into anger and anxiety, resulting in depressive thoughts.

You also need to stop overreacting. This change of attitude goes into the spirit of what it previously explained. Overreacting will only result in falling back into the black-and-white way of thinking and your old habits of making wrong decisions and resulting in destructive behavior.

Instead, find something you love and start having a goal in your life. This positive attitude is the opposite of self-destructing behavior. You will achieve goals.

During this process, you aren’t allowed to use any type of illegal substance, alcohol, or caffeine. I repeat: this is strongly forbidden! Try to drink two liters of water each day instead. You will experience positive effects quickly as water reduces anxiety, and it keeps you hydrated when you experience heavy stress. Also, try to focus on healthy, unprocessed food.

As a little extra that I mention so that you can’t lie to yourself pretending you didn’t know: do not self-medicate. Only take controlled substances if your mental health counselor has advised this. Self-medication exposes you to the risk of ending-up addicted.

The second phase of Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder

Once you have all this sorted out, you have to focus on the social aspects of your life. Humans are social creatures, after all. Just explain to people what you are dealing with and let them enter your life.

At this stage, you will have achieved some stability already. Now we have to make this a constant aspect of your life. You will do this by installing a routine. Organize yourself, plan your day, and focus on a couple of things that you do each day at the same hour.

Last phase of Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder

Now we get to a crucial point that you can’t skip. Start exercising. Yes, I know, you have to do some sport. You can choose which type of exercise. This physical activity will lift your mood and keeps anxiety and depression away.

We have already gone a long way through the journey now. At this point, you will experience moments of emotional relapse sometimes, which is normal. Remember, positive thinking and constructive self-talk. When this happens, you must take as much time for yourself as you need. Just isolate yourself a bit. You will feel much better again soon.

In this final phase, you have to stay focused and give yourself time to make those changes affect your life positively. Do not see yourself as ill or different; see yourself as sensitive and passionate, and embrace your peculiarities. Before you know, they will ease.

Unfortunately, Borderline Personality Disorder cannot be treated (yet), so you will not be cured. What we can achieve is that the symptoms will almost not manifest themselves anymore and that you will be able to handle your daily life smoothly.

About the Author: Alex Perez

I struggled with agoraphobia and depression during my late teens and early twenties. This forced me to learn as much as I could about psychology and mindfulness. Today I am a full-time copywriter. I post weekly on The main topics are anxiety, stress, depression, insomnia, agoraphobia, social anxiety, and panic attacks. All the posts are also available in Spanish, French, and Dutch.

You can find more of Alex’s wok on his website About Happy Life or on Facebook, Pinterest and Mix

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